June 19, 2003

Women Who Wed the Wrong Wahhabi

by Ilana Mercer

Pat Roush, a woman whose personal errors have resulted in an international political incident, is asking President Bush to intensify the pressure on Saudi Arabia to rectify the marital mistakes of American women. Roush describes her constituents as women who

. . . have married Saudi nationals who were sent to the United States to study in our colleges and universities. Once they accompanied their Saudi husbands back to Saudi Arabia, they soon found out that they lost all civil rights and became prisoners. Their children fall into that same category of slavery and are denied even the basic human rights.

 

Despite Roush’s use of a highly charged word like "slavery," the women she describes were not coerced into wedlock. They were not gulled into romantic entanglements with Saudi men; they entered into the relationships willingly.

 

Saudi Arabians are adherents of the strictest form of Islam, Wahhabism, which is as austere as the religion the Taliban practiced. A woman who takes up with a man, especially a Wahhabi Muslim, is ultimately responsible for investigating the type of belief system he espouses.

 

To feel sympathy for these women, one would have to believe that not until they were 'lured' to Saudi Arabia did their Saudi husbands reveal any of their founding beliefs. The alternative and more likely explanation is that the women simply chose to believe that they'd housetrain their Muslim extremist husbands into sensitive Westerners, who would share the housework and carry the newborn in a papoose.

 

Why didn't the women now entombed in Saudi Arabia case the country before moving there? A trip to the library is all it takes to find out about the dismal status of women in Saudi society. I certainly think I would have noticed if the country I was headed to enforced a state religion, and had in tow an energetic religious police, or Mutawaa'in. In one incident, the Saudi Mutawaa'in caused the death by fire of a number of schoolgirls. The devout cops refused to allow the girls to escape because their heads were immodestly uncovered.

 

A responsible woman doesn't tether the future of her children to such a place.

 

My now grown-up girl only just survived the perils of the public school system in Canada. Energetic parental vigilance and awareness were key. To detect the corrosive elements of the public school curriculum in North America, a mother has to take pains to educate herself. That's not necessary in Saudi Arabia. Plain for all to see in a Saudi ninth-grader's readings is a tract entitled The Victory of Muslims Over Jews. It's a hadif—a statement by the Prophet Mohammed—and it reads as follows:

 

The last hour won't come before the Muslims would fight the Jews and the Muslims will kill them so Jews would hide behind rocks and trees. Then the rocks and trees would call: oh Muslim, oh servant of God! There is a Jew behind me, come and kill him . . .

 

 

The very pabulum that nourished bin Laden and other extremists before him is compulsory for all Saudi students. At least 35 percent of school studies there are devoted to this kind religious education.

 

Some things are facts of life: (1) Saudi Arabia is a ruthless, medieval theocracy. It has been for a very long time. (2) The U.S. government will rarely protect its citizens in international disputes. (3) There is no such thing as the Right Wahhabi Guy.

 

As sad and as hard for a mother to live with as it is, the truth is that wannabe Wahhabi Western women who bind the future of their children to Wahhabi men are first and foremost responsible for what becomes of their children.

 

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